As the saying goes: Fool me once, shame on you.
It seems that Ashley Martson was worried that after Jay Smith's fifth time cheating on her, fans would spread the shame around a little.
Yes, fifth. That we know of.
If some parts of this 90 Day Fiance couple's turbulent history has slipped your mind, never fear.
Before we share Ashley's full statement — including the confession and the apology for lying — below, we'll briefly recap their ups and down.
Strap in, because Ashley and Jay had their share of ups and downs — and so many breakups and reconciliations — before their latest split.
And once you look through their history, it's going to be hard for anyone to believe that it's truly over this time.
1. Ashley and Jay are over
That is no secret. But when Ashley claimed that no one had cheated and that it was “no one’s fault” that they broke up — except perhaps for hers for not “getting over” Jay’s lengthy history of cheating — it turns out that this was not the truth.
2. It started with a wedding
In Jamaica with friends, Ashley spotted a tall, handsome man dancing and was immediately smitten by the hottie. It was not until they were actually making wedding plans and preparing for the K-1 Visa that Ashley learned that Jay was not in his mid-20s as she had assumed, but an adult in his late teens. The two had a non-binding ceremony in Jamaica for his family’s sake and then had a legally binding wedding in the US, as we saw on 90 Day Fiance.
3. Right after their wedding, he downloaded Tinder
Though he would later claim that he thought that the hookup app was for “making friends” (folks, they have Tinder in Jamaica), Ashley caught him video chatting with a high school girl — albeit an 18-year-old one — just three days after their wedding. Three days! The only good news, aside from the fact that this high school student was an adult, was that Jay had not yet boned the girl.
4. But she didn’t break up with him
Opting to give Jay a second chance, Ashley explained at the Tell All that she felt that she had invested too much time and emotion in Jay to break up. Besides, she loved him.
5. They kept filming
Folks, there’s a lot going on with these two, but a huge factor at work is the Sunk Cost Fallacy. You know when someone has just lost $500 gambling and figures that if they’ve spent this much with no reward, they should spend more in hope of gaining something for their trouble? It’s not a good idea with slot machines or with romance.
6. Things were almost fine
Ashley was intensely jealous, nervous that Jay would cheat for real. Those fears were well-founded. Jay hooked up with a random girl he’d just met in the bathroom of a barbershop. The owner not only told Ashley about it, he showed her evidence — the video of when he had roughed up Jay for disrespecting his place of business.